Memo No. 154 From The National Welfare Desk of Men
WHY MEN ARE EXCITED AT THE POSSIBILITY OF PATERNITY (DNA) TESTS AT HOME
“Men lie the most, women tell the biggest lies…A man’s lie is like, ‘I was at Tony’s House… A woman’s lie is like, ‘It is your baby.”
From, Never Scared, 2004.
Over the week, there has been so much excitement by the viral photo of the supposed Sh 800 Home DNA Test Kit. Whereas experts quickly ran to the TVs to remind us that what was being advertised was a sample collection (swab) kit, and the government has warned the public against its use, the excitement from men and worrying anxiety and silence from women is quite telling.
A paternity test is a dicey subject, yet inevitably, we will end up there. Affordable home DNA testing will be a reality in Kenya before the end of this decade. And men couldn’t be happier.
The scariest thing for men growing up is learning what women are truly capable of. As someone on the strong side of my 30s, I have witnessed the appalling ease with which married women cheat that it is no longer shocking that there is some innocent banker somewhere raising the kid of some sketchy thug that the wife shags on the side. What is scarier, you would think it is women of a certain predisposition likely to play a man dirty, but some of the criminally adulterous women are so innocent, average in looks, and totally invisible.
A DNA test is at the centre of my novel. Sexorcised and digging into the dirty business of infidelity completely crashed and crushed my heart. I have encountered more than five pregnant women who confessed to me that they didn’t know who the father of the baby is, and two actually said, they will choose whoever they thought would do the job(read the monied simp or responsible alpha). And one cheeky girl friend who dates some rich, but rugged fellow once told me that she will keep chewing the man’s money, but if she wants a baby, she will find a man whose looks are more palatable. Gentlemen, I am not making this up. No man is too good that a woman can’t play him.
Why are men excited about the home testing kit? Because it is their last line of defence against something they have no power over,
:the female womb. That is the woman’s ultimate flex.
To be very graphic: for a woman to get a child outside her marriage, it means, she has to cheat on the man emotionally, then physically, AND without protection, carry the pregnancy (which she has an option of aborting if her beliefs allow, never mind the irony), then go home, lie to the main man to sleep with her in good time, or sometimes she is sleeping with the two men at the same time and she gets pregnant. I can’t imagine a more egregious, most evil betrayal. What makes it worse, typically it is the most innocent, usually blue-pilled men, the so-called beta-bucks, who get played most.
Now, the other most unsettling thing is that, of all the women who have ever been caught cheating that I know, and the two cases where the DNA went the other way, none of the women was ever felt guilty of their wrongs. Both rationalized the cheating (blamed the man for emotional disengagedment or being in a bad place, the moon, the stars, anyone but themselfes. This is something that scares me about women. That inability to feel guilty when they have done something totally out of pocket. The modern world makes it easy for women to play some of the most dangerous games and get away with them. Their solipsism makes it easier not to feel guilt. Most think pieces from women on the DNA subject tend to downplay the seriousness of this bone-sickening treachery
However, in the same way, women don’t want men to talk about abortion, I think no woman should talk about paternity tests unless they support it and condemn women who play their men dirty.
Two quick things.
Unlike 99 per cent of women, more than 90 per cent of men, even the most red-pilled, alphas, can raise another man’s child if they chose to marry a single mother. Very few women can raise a man’s kid with another woman comfortably.
I have seen some bullshit peddled that in the past, women were allowed to steal a seed from outside to help improve the genetic stock of a family and this is the kind of revisionist anthropology that circulates around to rationalize female promiscuity yet there is no evidence of the same. Just ask your elders if such a thing exists, and you will be told wife’s inheritance was there. If a brother was impotent, he could be helped by his other brothers in utter familial secrecy But the idea that a man would willingly let another man smash his wife is as outlandish as it sounds. I know societies were rather permissive and had relaxed attitudes, but nobody will ever convince me that it was sanctioned. Otherwise, there wouldn’t exist prejudice against illegitimate children. But let us take it for size, even if it was the case, then it means, men consented to it, and maybe even the men who got the chance to do the exchange program were known. On modern times, no man can sanction a combi with another man for his wife unless it is the upper middle-class swingers.
However, in modern times, you have a dude called Martin. He is a high-value simp, with zero charm and skills, but he is a middle manager of some insurance firm. He meets a broke slay queen who wants his money but doesn’t fancy him a father. Slay queen agrees to marry Marto, and gets Marto one or two children. Down the line, she will get another child from her gym instructor, her ex, some random thug from her workplace, or some ‘cute’ bearded sketchy guy she met in a club. Knowingly, she will keep the pregnancy and have Marto raise the kid. And some women get away with it, seeing that one in every ten children born within a marriage does not belong to the supposed biological father. Alpha seed. Beta feed.
Here Martin has been doubly betrayed and that is why when some men learn about the betrayal, at a primal level are driven to harm the wife and the child, thinking this must be discouraged.
Chris Rock again said that most women never marry a man of their dreams and that isnwhy they are so resentful.
All men have this fear, the reason every man in a relationship tends to be insecure. Even the cockiest alpha, always has a reasonable fear that the woman may play him dirty. William Gass, that finest American philosopher, and novelist explained in his essay “Conditions for Adultery” why men are obsessed with the genetic purity of their progeny. The reason why it is women who are accused of adultery and never men is that it is women who have the ability to adulterate their genes. As in, for a man, his genetic stock is pure. But by the act of the woman sleeping with another man while she is married, she can introduce alien genes that will go against the man’s evolutionary imperative of fulfilling his biological urge.
Paternity tests are the masculine response to female contraception and the right to abortion, which changed the trajectory of patriarchy that some men think was for the worse. It is a “gotcha” moment for men. The invention of the pill and the intervention of abortion gave women (more so at the top) the ability to use and dispose of men at will, and only choose the seed that they want.
What makes DNA tests a must for men is that women never take the secret to the grave. Many adults have been whispered to by their mother who is their biological father. More so, if he is a man of means. Hence men must strive to know if the children they are raising are theirs. Doesn’t matter if the contours of the ears look eerily similar to those in the family.
Paternity tests are an admission that infidelity, to a point of getting babies outside marriage is normalized. This is a conversation the government wishes didn’t exist because the truth is enough to cause a social uproar. It shows how rotten we are. I know men who are comfortable raising some third born kid in a family of five children with the knowledge of the mother, and himself(the side dad).
In an article that was published in the Spring Edition of 2010, of the Economist’s Intelligent Life (a magazine that was later renamed 1843), a zoologist was cited saying, “being unfaithful enables females to have their cake and eat it.”
He went on to say that in many species, most females are unlikely to get the best male in the world to hang around for that, “she is more likely to end up with a boring one with a straggly beard. But why should she settle for his genes?” And with infidelity, she needn’t. And there is much evidence to show that she doesn’t.”
The zoologist said that women tend to be unfaithful when mating upwards, up the social scale (as in prefer mating with men above their husbands). Though sometimes, it is some random thug.
At present, studies have shown that 23% to 30 % of children born in the world belong to other men, not their biological father. There were days I would dismiss this as hogwash. But being old and living in these streets, it could be more, in some towns like Nairobi, Eldoret, Kisumu, and Kisii.
That is why I urge men to do DNA tests and know the truth. When it comes to paternity tests, what you don’t know really hurts.
As for women who do this, one day, the truth will come out, and it will be unpleasant.